Civility

April 22, 2019

Stalk Happens

Stalking is a crime of power and control. The National Institute of Justice defines stalking as “a course of conduct directed at a specific person that involves repeated (two or more occasions) visual or physical proximity, nonconsensual communication, or verbal, written, or implied threats, or a combination thereof, that would cause a reasonable person fear.”  Cyberstalking involves the use of electronic communication to create a criminal level of intimidation, harassment, and fear in one or more victims. Cyberstalkers may flood a target’s inbox with threatening or obscene messages; or assume the victim’s identity and post and solicit responses to intimidate, […]
January 26, 2019

The Bystander Effect

It is time for business to take a wide look at anti-harassment training.  There is evidence to support that training raises awareness of what harassment is and that it is prohibited.  One problem is most employees will not be self-aware enough to acknowledge they may be the harasser.  Helping employees become aware of the level of civility in their workplace and the harm of micro-aggressions may be time well spent. But getting employees to report an incident of harassment is the big job. Creating a safe and respectful workplace may open the path to reporting harassment. Research and popular culture […]
October 21, 2018

Workplace Silence

Alyssa Milano requested her followers use #metoo just over a year ago. Since then, we have all become extremely aware of the scope of unreported sexual harassment incidents. Employers’ standards for preventing harassment have been raised.  The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission’s most recent guidance includes “create and maintain an environment in which employees feel comfortable reporting harassment to management.” The fact is people who are not in power are not comfortable reporting much of anything to management. Organizational psychology has demonstrated that people impose censorship on themselves when communicating upward even when their intent is constructive.  People impose this self-censorship […]
August 22, 2018

Emotional Safety

Employee retention may be the most important function of human resources today. Gallup reported 28% of today’s workforce will interview for other jobs this year.  A study of more than 1,000 adults across generations and industries in this country revealed lack of emotional safety will cause people to quit their jobs. Maintaining an environment where employees feel emotionally safe is a powerful method to retain employees.   Feeling emotionally safe is feeling valued and accepted enough to express and challenge yourself. On the contrary, people are inhibited in a toxic workplace with drama and infighting. The term, “hostile work environment” is […]